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Vintage1944
POSTED: Wed, 07/08/2009 - 10:03am
Stress Related Eating
I know,Iknow we have been over this before but I am failing miserably in this area.Everyone has offfered wonderful support and excellent strategies.And I do incorporate all ideas.And for awhile I do well.Then something flips the switch and I am off on a downward spiral.It mainly occurs at work,where the psychological/emotional stress is at times overwhelming.I have insight into this issue.It is using it to make a permanent change that presents the difficulty.I must work.Must I remain obese to make money?God I pray not. For the next 6 weeks I am doing a Temporary Full-Time position.I simply cannot gain weight this time.I pledge to use relaxation strategies,walk,slow down and taste my food.What I need is away to be accountable to myself.I am good at telling others what to do(annoying habit)but...well as Alice in Wonderland said"I give myself very good advice.I very seldom follow it."So,please mes amies,may I ask once again for your help?Could you stand it if I checked in everyday with a brief(I promise)summary of what transpired?A bit of public journalling,if you will.This is a habit I have had since early childhood.Baby steps it is.Thanks for reading this rather long missive.JeanMIREILLE'S CALENDAR
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jas
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 6:23pm
stress, life...
It does seem like many people have alot of stress and things going on in their life. I have a candle burning for all of you with a prayer of beauty and peace and the joy of life. JasVintage1944
POSTED: Fri, 01/27/2012 - 7:49am
Thank you Jas
That light is helping me.You are a friend.OXOVintage1944
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 8:55am
Big sigh...
It wouldn't be my life if there were no stress or constant changes.I am not going to NY.My sister is in another health difficulty.She is on a very powerful IV anti=fungal med.Yesterday,because of her rotten veins,she had a PICC line put in.It means certain restrictions,plus she has to go to the hospital daily until Feb.17 to get the treatment.So I remain here.I feel like such a heel letting my friend down.She is totally understanding and she has her husband with her.He is a prince among men.The upside,I won't be in NY feeling guilty/worried. The hospital has kindly agreed to administer the drug there, thus it won't cost $300.00 per day.It is new and not yet part of a Home Care Nurses'Delegated Act.That will change soon,but not soon enough.Plus she has to have the dressing changed on her PICC line...a sterile,long procedure.That requires a trip to a special clinic relatively often.So there it is.Plus ca change,plus ca meme.OXO
kit
POSTED: Sat, 01/28/2012 - 12:20am
Dearest Jean
I am praying for you and your sister. Please stay strong. It is hard to have faith sometimes. But I will continue to keep you both in my thoughts. It is a sad but expected day for me. Mom passed peacefully to her eternal life. I was told she was walking and laughing when she tripped and fell breaking her hip. Surgery repaired it but she had too many deficits working against her. Life in the dialysis unit was becoming too much, a heart attack and stroke and hip surgery in the last 4 months. Her poor body had enough. With medical help she passed on, the family all around her. I guess that's all one can ask in life when the time comes. I will be offline attending to many details. I am grateful to have a place to go for kindness and support. Merci.Marilyn
POSTED: Sun, 01/29/2012 - 12:12pm
Kit
I know it may be a while till you see this but know you are in my thoughts at this stressful and sad time.kit
POSTED: Sat, 02/04/2012 - 7:39pm
Dear lovely Marilyn
Thank you for your kindness. I'm dealing with emotions different than those when I lost my dad. Cancer took him after a long fight. My mom had many illnesses, but we were caught off guard passing away after hip surgery. But she is at peace. Thank you for the friendship and may I say you look stunning in your dress! xoVintage1944
POSTED: Sat, 01/28/2012 - 12:17pm
How can I comfort you?
My deepest condolences to you and your family.Losing your mother is unlike anything else that happens.Sending all of you love,warm thoughts and healing energy for your grief.Please,take care.Your mother left a beautiful legacy in you,my friend.I will light a candle to honour her and you.Love,Jeankit
POSTED: Sat, 02/04/2012 - 7:44pm
Thank you Jean for your kind words
Yes I am having a hard time sorting my feelings of loss. The past discord between mom and me has disappeared, I am just feeling empty and may I add, spacey. Decided to wait until Wednesday before I return to work. Don't want to give someone the wrong med! I am thinking of you too,hope things are better with your sister, I haven't been reading posts, so I am not up to date. Be well too my friend xoxoVintage1944
POSTED: Sat, 02/04/2012 - 10:06pm
My heart is with you
This is such a hard time for you and it will manifest itself in many ways,over time.Grief can feel like many thing,including what you describe.Be kind and to yourself and tune in to your needs.Sending you love and a huge hug.OXOjas
POSTED: Sat, 01/28/2012 - 12:12pm
And for you kit
Lots of love and goodness for you and your family. Jaskit
POSTED: Sat, 02/04/2012 - 7:45pm
Thank you, Jas
For your kindess. I miss being on this site but will try to recalibrate my routine. The support is oh so wonderful! xosnorklee
POSTED: Fri, 01/27/2012 - 9:22am
Sorry to hear
Sorry to hear about Leslie. You two have been through so much. I'm glad that they found the bacteria that's causing the problem. You both are in my thoughts.Vintage1944
POSTED: Fri, 01/27/2012 - 2:30pm
Hi
Have you heard of Trichosporan ?Usually,present on the skin.Her MDs asked her permission to write up and publish her case.She is not appreciating her "unique" status.The treatment is expensive i.e. not yet covered by our national plan.The Docs are asking that the government make an exception and cover the oral treatment.It covers the IV treatment,but whatever is used to make the solution will kill her ie.kidney failure.So we have to wait a week.Isn't this the craziest story?OXOMarilyn
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 5:13pm
Oh Jean
My heart goes out to you and your sister, will this ever end for you both. Be kind to yourself and give Leslie my best wishes and hugs to you both. I will have a litte quiet time in the excitement of the weekend and think of you both. God bless and take care. xxxxVintage1944
POSTED: Fri, 01/27/2012 - 7:51am
Dear Marilyn
Thank you and have the most heavenly weekend.I will be thinking of you.OXOAva
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 4:57pm
Oh Jean,
I've only just seen this post (so please ignore my last post ... though I do hope you are well). I'm sorry to hear about your sister. It must be difficult for you both. Hopefully things will improve ... and you will get your NY trip soon :-)Vintage1944
POSTED: Fri, 01/27/2012 - 7:55am
Dear Ava
Thank you and I would never ignore your posts.Yesterday was a roller coaster ride of changes.At the end of the day,quite literally,they found the bacteria that is causing this havoc and will treat it.But that is fraught with difficulties.Ah well,it will get sorted.OXOAva
POSTED: Sat, 01/28/2012 - 3:35am
Fingers & everything else crossed
that it will all be sorted soon and with a positive result. Take care Jean.vickie2
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 2:48pm
So sorry...
...to hear about your sister. I hope things can improve.Vintage1944
POSTED: Fri, 01/27/2012 - 7:56am
Hi Vickie
Thanks.Yes,they will improve,I believe.It is testing our patience quite sorely.C'est la vie.OXOmalkan
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 9:17am
Maybe Next year?
Sorry to learn about your sister's decline in health, and family comes first. NYC will be here and maybe next year or in warmer weather (spring?) xo MollieVintage1944
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 10:19am
Hi Mollie
Thanks for the good thoughts.I am going to get there this spring!I am determined.OXOmalkan
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 9:16am
Maybe Next year?
Sorry to learn about your sister's decline in health, and family comes first. NYC will be here and maybe next year or in warmer weather (spring?) xo MollieVintage1944
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 8:56am
BTW
I haven't eaten the contents of the pantry and fridge under this stress.That's a good thing.LOL.Celtic Owl
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 11:26am
in my prayers
I don't know how to handle this type of stress either, but I am glad you have been controlled enough to not eat your way through it. Although, in a similiar situation, my eating started after the crisis, after the knot finally came unkinked. But I felt that it was really a right time to comfort and heal. But of course now I am trying very hard to stay on track. So please be kind to yourself, and keep us in your updates, too.Vintage1944
POSTED: Thu, 01/26/2012 - 1:54pm
Celtic Owl
Many thanks for your prayers.We have to find away to stay true to ourselves when under stress.I have functioned this way for a very long time and seem not to learn.Please,take care of yourself.OXOkit
POSTED: Wed, 01/18/2012 - 5:46pm
More on stress related eating...
We all seem to be overwhelmed somewhat lately,at least that's what I gather from reading our sisters' posts. I've never been a big chewing gum fan(I can see Mireille's nose wrinkling). However,back from the dental checkup today--good and bad. No cavities, gums doing ok, but big increase in tartar and stains(maybe TMI), but I do lov-ve my coffee,tea and occasional red wine. My hygienist also added the colored veggies/fruits that I love and are good for me, add to the stains despite flossing,brushing,anti-tartar rinsing. Sigh..did some reading and apparently Xylitol sweetened gum can possibly help. Xylitol is a sugar alcohol from fruits and veg but does affect the body like sugar does,so sugar-free. It reduces acidity(Jas is big on this for the body), so teeth don't have bacteria interested in clinging. Plus..the good part, keeps the mouth occupied preventing mindless,stress induced nibbling. This is all new to me, might help??kit
POSTED: Wed, 01/18/2012 - 5:49pm
OOPS!
Xylitol does NOT affect the body like sugar. I should try proof-reading.Viva la Diva
POSTED: Sun, 01/15/2012 - 9:24pm
Love the support here....
Seems like life is extra challenging lately for many. I cherish the suggestions to go slowly and take time to take of you a little each day. It is true we are are valauble and mean lots to many, but to matter to ourselves. As for your appearance, girl, this is your chance to shine! Hang in there and have fun cultivating the new chic you. You are worth it.Patoui
POSTED: Wed, 01/11/2012 - 4:36pm
Stressed but not eating
Oh my goodness. I cannot believe how I let stress get the best of me. My life turned completely upside down 10/2/2011 when after being back home only 1 hour after driving back from Florida on vacation I found out my mother had a stroke. So back and forth I went to rehab to visit her, talked nonstop with my siblings to determine what would be best for her (assisted living versus moving in with my brother and sister-in-law in SC), got judged by her friends, and balanced this horrbily stressful job I am stuck in (for the moment though - I must remember that). Through all of this I pretty much stopped eating most of my meals and the pounds creeped on. After fighting bronchitis and a terrible infection over the holidays, I look like a total mess. Today I had a coworker tell me that if I ever wanted to be considered for a higher role I needed to correct my appearance. And this is coming from a person who looks a wreck almost every day. I feel at this point that I have gone beyond a point of no return. *sigh* Patty