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POSTED: Sun, 02/21/2010 - 5:31pm
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Let's talk relationships: I am now reading both, Steve Harvey's "Act like a lady, Think like a man" and Jamie Cat Callan, "French Women Don't Sleep Alone" Jamie's first quote fits both books, "The mystery of the French woman is that her man knows he can lose her at any moment." How do you find yourself respecting yourself in relationships, having requirements and setting standards?MIREILLE'S CALENDAR
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tia
POSTED: Wed, 03/28/2012 - 1:46pm
Did the story end?
Having in mind that I am going to finish work in the end of this week and since I haven't seen him for two whole days, I was confused. So I just had to make an action. While I was at work I listened to the song for Hall & The Oates - You make my dreams come true and I was thinking about the feeling of the protagonist in the movie "500 days of summer" when he listened to that song. He was completely in a crush and that made me believe, that I could arrange things somehow. So what I did was to go into the shop and a man told me to wait for someone to help me and there a this really impolite woman. I asked her if she knews the boy who always wears a cap and works there and she told me his surname. I was just acting like I know him and said "yes, exactly! Well is he coming today, because I really need to talk to him. It's very important!" and she answered "no, he's not working here anymore". This was bad, I really don't like getting news like this, because then my brain has to reconnect all my synapsis from new. Then I asked her for his phonenumber and she said it's not possible to give me that number, because she's is not allowed to and blah... Then I told her to call him and to give him my number then, but she said that they have to much work right now and that she doesn't have the time for things like this. Well, then I went away. And because of my crazyness and the fact that I got his surname I was searching for him on facebook since almost every person that I know is having an account there. But I couldn't find him. But I don't want to give this whole thing up, it would be to pitty, because it's like a tale and I love tales so much. And I think that any kind of tale needs an ending. Even if it's bad, but this is like no ending. So I need some input Ladies! Any ideas what I could do expect if stalking? XoxoAva
POSTED: Sat, 03/31/2012 - 1:56pm
Dear Tia
Some things are kismet. Just think of it as 'this is how this was meant to be'. If he is 'The One' then you will somehow meet his acquaintance when you're least expecting it! He may even be looking for you :-)Who knows what the future may bring ... just enjoy that secret smile you have on your face when you remember the fun you've already had from this 'Brief Encounter'!
Keep us updated should the unexpected happen!
tia
POSTED: Sun, 04/01/2012 - 8:38am
Ava
Thank you ! Well I will see! Maybe I will meet him again someday or maybe I will meet someone else. But what I know for sure that it was is a cute little story :)KATHYH
POSTED: Fri, 03/30/2012 - 6:52am
; (
Tia We are all disappointed I am sure. It looks like you have no choice but to savor the short journey for what it was....your daily pleasure. Jean had a similar short lived visual romance and she holds that special place in her heart and you should as well. Keep your eyes open to the life around you, it is full of pleausre waiting to happen especially if you look through those "romantic eyes of the soul" that you have. Hugs. Kathytia
POSTED: Fri, 03/30/2012 - 12:51pm
Kathyh & merci
I guess you're right when you say it was my daily pleasure. Well it had the potential for a nice beginning, but maybe there's something more exciting waiting for me. It's just like you said! When you keep eyes opened then you see everything around you and that's amazing :D. So it goes on and maybe in some time I will have a real tale! But I still want to thank you for your support. This thanks goes to all :). I think in this whole story the biggest pleasure for me was to write to you what happens and then get the best opinions and advices that are possible! The best way to have french answers all the time! For me it's like learning the "savoir-faire". Along these lines: Merci beaucoup <3KATHYH
POSTED: Fri, 03/30/2012 - 8:50pm
BIG HUGS TIA
We are so happy to be part of your story. Kathytia
POSTED: Sun, 04/01/2012 - 8:37am
Kathyh
Maybe someday I will write book and you will be part of it :)Marilyn
POSTED: Fri, 03/30/2012 - 3:10pm
To remember
This will be something to remember and a tale to tell your grandchildren. You will always remember fondly the 'boy with the blue eyes'. Even as we grow older and in stable relationships a friendly smile or twinkling eyes are delight to the soul.tia
POSTED: Sun, 04/01/2012 - 8:36am
Marilyn
True Story! I will keep this memory in mind. It was nice and that's it who knows what will come. Maybe next time I will meet the boy with brown eyes :D!tia
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 1:26pm
The Boy with the Blue eyes
Here the story goes on! Well, I thought that maybe on monday something could happen, but unfortunately nothing happened, I couldn’t even smile at him, because the shop was in a big trouble. Seemed as they got a big deal. In addition a lot of other people were there to help with work. I don’t know. Could be everything. But the weird thing ist hat his boss was watching me everytime I was passing their place. It was kind of strange. Even more strange is that I’m falling into crazyness! I baked a cheesecake for work and I made a bit more and put it into soufflé dishes so that I had smaller portions. I was thinking if he would speak to me than I would smell like bakery and I would have a cake for him in my bag. In the end I’m glad that I hadn’t the possibility to do that. I guess my mind is freaking out haha. Then I had an idea. As an architecturestudent I always have paper and pencil in my bag! I thought if I would see him today I could put a smile on a paper and show it to him in front oft he shop window. But this is kind of boring. So I was thinking of giving him a piece of paper in sepia tone from sketchbook with a short message like in school: Do you wanna have a coffee with me? Cross yes, maybe or no. But this came today after work when I realized that he wasn’t there today. Oh and I tried to be there when he gets out of work, but I didn’t meet him. Maybe I should just let go, because I am getting crazy. The thing is hat this crazyness is making fun... :D So what I am going to do???Kimberly
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 10:35pm
I like your ideas....
so adorable. I like the smile on a sheet of paper at the window idea. :)KATHYH
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 9:03pm
Tia.....loving all you sweet little ideas
Tia, every one of your little daydreams about "what you might do" are perfect. I especially adore the mental image of you standing outside the glass window holding up the sketched smile.... Who could resist you. ;). KathyAva
POSTED: Wed, 03/28/2012 - 6:33am
Kathy & Tia
Kathy, I agree. These little ideas are lovely and I think they would all work! Who could resist? :-)Tia - you could go for it! It's a kind of 'half a first move' ... let him follow it up ... you'll soon know if he's interested in taking things further, but for now, enjoy creating these ideas in your head and thinking about the possibility of doing a few of them :-) Bonne chance!
Vintage1944
POSTED: Sun, 03/25/2012 - 10:20am
This conversation
is so much fun.Everyone's comments and ideas are wonderful.What would I do?Continue to flirt and somehow signal I would like it to progress,giving him the chance to make the first move.OXOtia
POSTED: Sun, 03/25/2012 - 3:05pm
totally!
it is even more than fun! it's like talking to my friends, to my sister, or to my mother at once. it's wonderful to talk to you and to see about your advices. so the story goes on tomorrow. i will keep you updated ladies! wish you a wonderful day or a wonderful night (depends on where you live :D) xoxotia
POSTED: Thu, 03/22/2012 - 6:36pm
This is my little story
As you women always have the best advices I need to tell you my story. I started working in an office and on my there I am passing a shop and in that shop is a very cute guy working. In my first week he was always looking, even staring at me. The second week I just smiled and since that moment on we always meet at the same time 9:15 o'clock to smile at each other. He is in the shop and I am passing by. But he never gets out and asks me for my number or for a coffee or je ne sais pas! I am very classic in that way, I think a man should ask for something and not the mademoiselle, but my friends told me that I should get in and ask by myself for his number. What do you think? Being classic of emancipated? Or can I be both at the same time? xoxoAva
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 7:08am
How is your little story Tia?
Hope things are going well for you :-) We'd all love to know how you're getting on!tia
POSTED: Fri, 03/23/2012 - 8:09pm
You ladies
are awesome! I really enjoy writing with you ladies here, because you all are so sensitive and I love your advices! Well today when I passed the shop his boss talked to him, so no smile that day. I was thinking to go in, because it's a shop like you mentioned, but I have to say that it is a copy shop and they only do big deals. so nothing for little students who only wants to copy some pages. But the story will go on monday and next week will be the last week where he can ask me to drink something with him, because after that week my job finishes and university starts again. And for the romantics of you: When I smiled the first time I was listening to the song Joyce - Jonathan - Lheure avait sonné. It's a song to fall in love. Thank you ladies! <3jracus
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 12:15pm
keeping informed :)
Definately keep us informed about what happens!! I tried looking for this topic the other day and couldnt find it. Glad I've found it again!! I'm very intrigued on what happens too!! :DVintage1944
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 8:58am
Tia
Your story brings to mind an experience I had several years ago...I lived in Montreal and took the Metro to work.One early morning,I looked up from my musings and was looking into a pair of the most gorgeous blue eyes,in a very handsome face.We smiled at each other.I transferred trains and went on my way.Then I started seeing him most mornings...the same thing a smile,a nod ,a little flirtatious checking each other out.One day I got on the Metro,he wasn't there but I saw him running to catch the train and the door closed at the moment he reached it.We looked at each other,smiled ruefully and the train pulled away.I never saw him again.But I have never forgotten those incredible blue,dark blue,eyes or the thrill of the chase.I was living with a bf at the time,so it had a little guilty pleasure to it.Enjoy your experience to the fullest and I hope he makes a move.oxojracus
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 12:20pm
oh dont you just love it when
oh dont you just love it when your eyes meet the eyes of a handsome stranger!! such a romantic thing like in a film!! I guess you could say how I met my husband was like something out of a film ;)Ava
POSTED: Tue, 03/27/2012 - 12:48pm
Oh mine too :-)
'You've got mail' could have been written about us. We met online over 10 years ago. Every time that particular film comes on, we watch it and laugh! It's so funny as we also love 'An affair to remember' ... with the wonderful Cary Grant & Debra Kerr :-)Marilyn
POSTED: Sat, 03/24/2012 - 2:16pm
Tia
If it's meant to be it will be. On Friday you could try giving him a little wave Goodbye and see how he reacts. I agree with the others that he should make the first move.Naja
POSTED: Sat, 03/24/2012 - 5:40pm
Marilyn!
Great idea that goodbye waving! Very elegant touch! AND makes him wonder...jracus
POSTED: Fri, 03/23/2012 - 4:10pm
Have you gone in to buy
Have you gone in to buy something? That'd give you a chance to have some small talk and an even closer look at that smile. ;) I'm a classic girl myself so I'm the same about having the guy do the chasing. Its more fun when they chase you. I do agree this sounds like something out of film. How romantic!!! ((I'm a hopeless romantic)) :PKimberly
POSTED: Fri, 03/23/2012 - 2:44pm
Let the man make the first move.....
I always believe in letting the man make the first move. The smiling is enough to let him know that you are interested. Not long ago I was recently divorced. I started working in a store to make money for bills. I noticed a guy who also worked there. We would say hello and exchange smiles. Then I noticed everyday when his shift ended, he would come to the bakery. He would say hello and buy a piece of cake or something. Sometimes I would give him some free cookies. I realized he was interested when he would be nervous and shift around and rearrange the bread. Another co-worker that worked in his department told me he was wanting to ask me out. But I waited until he did it. He did eventually and we have been pretty much inseperable since then. It is one of the most satisfying relationships I have ever had. We enjoy cooking together as he never cooked before me. We never argue which is such a delight. I think you and he will appreciate it more if you let things happen as they should. One of the most important lessons is to maintain an air of mystery. Don't give away too much too soon. :)Ava
POSTED: Fri, 03/23/2012 - 7:39am
Tia
Your story is the stuff of fairy tales! Most girls (women) would love to be in your situation ... how romantic :-)I would certainly carry on with the flirting - you make one another's day. If he has any sense ... which he has, because he's looking at you (though perhaps you make his heart pound and his head a little giddy!), he'll eventually say something or show you a sign that he's really interested (so long as he doesn't have a 9.30am appt with someone else walking past the shop ... or has already had a 9am appt! I jest!)
We would love to hear how your story goes ... we like happy endings here!
Naja
POSTED: Fri, 03/23/2012 - 5:45am
Tia...
I'd say if he keeps smiling at you and doesn't make a move although you smile back at him, well, just move on and keep smiling until you come across the man who's self-confident enough to come and talk to you. This guy is either: a. very shy, so eventually he'll find the courage to make the first move but he needs more time, b. too self-confident thinking that a girl is supposed to talk to him first since he's such a catch, c. just checking you out to see what YOUR type is which means he's kind of smart or observant. I can't think of other cases right now, but if his type applies to any of the above, just wait and DON'T make any other move but just smile at him casually. Also, think of it this way: that's exaclty how our French sisters flirt... Bonne chance!snorklee
POSTED: Fri, 03/23/2012 - 1:51pm
I agree...
I agree with you, Naja. And there's always the pleasure of that first rush of anticipation of what might come someday. There's something to be said for enjoying that for a while.Naja
POSTED: Fri, 03/23/2012 - 2:21pm
Deb mou...
Totally agree with you, too! That first rush used to bring spring in my heart every time (even when things didn't look that great later on).