POSTED: Sat, 04/10/2010 - 8:05pm
Men (rather, one particular man) -- help
Hi ladies, I have no idea where to post this. I am a long time reader but haven't yet contributed. But now I need your fabulous french advice. I am usually so good with men -- I am very good at flirting, playing the whole "game" -- it's never even been a game, really, always natural, always been fun -- t's never mattered. Until I met someone who has completely blown me away. I know it's cliche but I literally cannot eat, cannot sleep, cannot focus. I have no idea what to do. He is older (16 years -- I am 29) -- he has done things I cannot even imagine. I literally have never met anyone like him, and I've lived in 3 countries. He said we shouldn't get involved because he is too old and serious and I shouldn't deal with the things he's gone through. But I cannot think of anything else. I know he is attracted to me but he is so determined he is not good for me. But I think I could be good for him. None of my usual anything applies -- I have no idea what to do. How do I get him? I know maybe I shouldn't even try but I never have wanted anyone like this and I want to explore that, whatever the consequences. He is very high profile and so I can't say much more except I can tell you we kissed, and it was fantastic, and he told me he was interested but it was for my own good (yes, I know -- my sister says to listen, but I want to live my life and experience things, whatever the consequences) and he hasn't called in 2 days (I know that's normal but this is so extreme, to me anyway, that I cannot be objective). Please help. You can kick me but I probably won't feel it. I am very emotionally driven and if something makes me feel like this I have to experience it. I'm not smart when it comes to love but I'd rather feel things and get hurt than protect myself into an emotional black hole. I've never had to play a game before because it's always been a natural game, if that makes any sense, so I have no idea how to not just throw myself at him, which I know is bad. Help.