POSTED: Sat, 04/18/2009 - 4:48pm

How to get back on track: share your tips

We all have setbacks, but sharing them helps everyone.
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POSTED: Thu, 05/18/2017 - 9:08am

Meal Plans!

A way to get back on track.Let's start posting meal plans,remembering the French tradition of a menu...a number of small dishes r ather than large portions of one or two items.Flavour and presentation being essential.Anybody interested?We could start a thread called Meal Plans.Need a French infusion here.


POSTED: Thu, 05/18/2017 - 11:14am

Meal Plans

Great idea, Jean. I could use summer meal ideas, preferably some that require little or no cooking. Meanwhile, I will contribute one, very French, summer meal idea: Nicoise Salade. Build a salad of boiled, sliced potato, steamed and cooled green beans, sliced, hard-cooked egg, lettuce, tomato, olives, and tuna. Needs only a simple vinaigrette. I cook the potato, green beans, and egg in the a.m. and refrigerate until it's time to compose the salad. I use Italian tuna, canned in olive oil. Very filling meal.


POSTED: Sat, 05/06/2017 - 10:24am

Hanging on for dear life

Half off the wagon,in my quest to become bread savvy.Any thoughts?Perhaps I must kick out this little demon once again.


POSTED: Sun, 07/17/2016 - 3:54pm

The book!

I need to reread the book yet again. The pounds have gradually crept in again. Comfort eating needless to say. The state of UK politics, husband's health and general malaise = silly eating. So back to basics yet again. The zipper test insists.


POSTED: Tue, 07/19/2016 - 9:57pm


Is a monster,my friend.It wears you down,depletes your resources and it is bloody sneakyYou are half way through a loaf of bread or whatever your petite demon might be ,before you realize it has you in its clutches.Be kind to yourself by caring for yourself well.You deserve the best.oxo

Shirley 1944

POSTED: Wed, 07/27/2016 - 12:42pm

Oh Yes!

Stress is my downfall also. My test from the doctor came back with adrenal fatigue accompanied by urinary problems and a problem in my small intestine (not yet diagnosed). I guess I am stressed! I will see him to go over the results next week. Will post what he says


POSTED: Wed, 07/27/2016 - 7:45pm


You are in my heart and thoughts.Sending you healing energy.oxo

Shirley 1944

POSTED: Thu, 07/28/2016 - 7:54am

Thank you

my friend


POSTED: Tue, 07/19/2016 - 10:13pm

Stress is the root of it,

But trying to calm myself without, as you noted Jean, a loaf of bread. Oh my, why do I do it. Better today, but it's always sneaking up on us. xoxo


POSTED: Thu, 07/28/2016 - 8:32am

Are you

O.k.?This might help...create a safe place in your mind ,a place you can retreat to and in your mind experience the smells,sounds,textures,what you see around you..Go there whenever you need to or simply because it is restoring to go there.oxo


POSTED: Tue, 07/19/2016 - 9:47pm

The book for me too.

The Copa America and Euro Cup were my undoing. My zipper is not happy with me. We all have each other, though. May the state of our countries improve. Today was a good day. I ate salad throughout the day and worked out. I've had at least 8 glasses of water. It's blistering hot here, so I won't be going outside for the next few days. Time to turn inward, meditate, work out and eat mostly vegetables. Take heart, dear ladies.


POSTED: Tue, 07/19/2016 - 6:01pm

I hear you Marilyn...

Sorry to hear your troubles. I share some of these same concerns. I just this minute deleted Facebook. It's anxiety provoking. I realize it deletes our French Women site too but I handed it a red penalty card. I could be more productive running around the city looking for Pokemon sheesh! I look forward to the comfort of our group here. And you nailed it: silly eating. Guilty as charged. Back on course today, day one. Be well Marilyn, and take care. xo


POSTED: Mon, 07/11/2016 - 11:26am

No Regrets.....

I don't believe in regrets. I feel we learn from anything and everything. If something goes awry learn from it. With that said, I really fell off the wagon. I watched my sister drop countless pounds. She was a dog bather so she stood all day, lifting dogs, ate her lunch quickly whilst standing. And off came the pounds. Now, this was not a healthy way. But sadly as she lost I gained. Why? I allowed her to sit on the sofa when she came home because she was always tired. So I had to pick up everything around the house.... dishes, cleaning and a majority of the financial responsibilities since her job paid so poorly. I became stressed and ate and did less of things for me. Now she has a new job and things are getting better. But out of this year of me handling it all it made me realize that I can do a lot simultaneously. so now I am in the process of cultivating my own vegetable and herb garden, writing my first novel, learning English/Irish fiddling and loving life. I am beginning to see less stress in the mirror and more joy. and now that is beginning to affect my body. I'm eating better and moving more and it's just absolutely wonderful. But it was a struggle and some days are more than others. Hang in there sisters!


POSTED: Tue, 07/19/2016 - 6:03pm


Bravo Patoui! Please share your writing when you are able!!


POSTED: Thu, 07/14/2016 - 9:07am

No Regrets

Bravo Patoui! Thanks for sharing and glad to see you back!


POSTED: Tue, 07/12/2016 - 8:59am

No regrets

The best choice you could ever make.And look at the Universe opening up for you.Brilliant.oxo


POSTED: Mon, 07/11/2016 - 11:14pm

I absolutely love...

...that you were able to figure that out and make the appropriate changes. I really admire that, and I hope life just gets better. Good for you!


POSTED: Sat, 07/02/2016 - 6:56pm

Fell down a cliff

Hello everyone. I have been a member almost since this site began, but have wandered away. It was so long ago that I posted and logged in, that I forgot my original user name, so I created a new one. When I first came here 8 years ago, I'd just come off a very successful weight loss, which I attribute to following, in general, FWDGF. Fast forward 8 years, and I've gained back all the weight I swore I would never see again. I was very pious and thought I had "arrived", and since I was there that I would never, ever cross that line of weight gain again. But I was wrong. And here I am. I cannot, for the life of me, find my motivation. I come here today, humbly asking for help. How do I find my motivation? One thing that scares me is that there are so few here...and I really could use support.


POSTED: Tue, 07/12/2016 - 4:57pm

We are here!

There are many of us here, and we are here to support you. Several of us, myself included, have done the same thing. My downfall began with the failure of my business to survive the recession and so I had to get a "real" job. I didn't like the job, didn't want to be there, worked almost 60 hours/week, still had children at home who needed get the picture. I stopped doing yoga, stopped paying attention to food, and ate lunch out almost every single day because there was never time to think about doing anything else. The weight came packing back on with absolute maddening ease. But your question is "how do I find my motivation?" In my case, motivation has always been to be healthy, and, I must admit, I also wanted to fit into my clothes. But I also discovered that, sometimes, motivation is in the doing. You motivate yourself by just doing what you have to do. Sometimes, motivation doesn't come along until you've lost the first few pounds. (And that's what I loved about the Leek Soup Weekend. I'd lose about 3 pounds and suddenly, Monday morning, I was motivated.) Best of luck. We're always here. -- Carol


POSTED: Mon, 07/11/2016 - 6:26pm

Right there with you!

I am in the same position as you- became a member of this site years and years ago. I fully embraced the FWDGF lifestyle and lost a lot of weight- I became happy, at my ideal weight, and loving my life. Now, I'm NOT at my healthiest weight but, more importantly for me, I don't eat for pleasure. I eat to soothe myself, to make myself feel better about a job I hate but I need (husband lost his job), to feel less lonely, less anxious, etc etc. I feel like I've forgotten HOW to pursue pleasure! I want to go back to finding pleasure in the small things, even if some bigger things aren't going my way. To eat because I LIKE something, not because I think it's the healthiest option. We can get back there :) I'm going to challenge myself to eat with no distractions this week- to really eat mindfully. Want to join me? I'd be happy to support you if you'll support me too! Best, Lauren


POSTED: Sat, 07/30/2016 - 2:56pm

Hello Lauren

Right there with you!Eating mindfully is not as easy as it sounds for me.Not clear why but anything distracts me.Perhaps it is all these years of ridiculous diets and crushing down unhappy feelings.Let's move forward ,supporting each other.We all are about to start a retread of FWDGF on Aug.1.Will you join us,please?oxo


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 9:19pm

Down a Cliff

Here we are to support you! I've gained my weight back too, and it is discouraging. I'm turning back to the book and doing things I Zumba to get me motivated. Are there active things you love to do?


POSTED: Tue, 07/26/2016 - 11:24pm


I love to walk. I do have MS, so what I can do exercise wise is limited. Also, the MS limits the length of time I can exercise. So between a job where I sit at a desk all day and the MS, I don't have an abundance of time or energy to exercise. Now, add in the heat of the summer, and there is my list of excuses. My intentions are good, and I miss walking for joy and exercise so much. Maybe when it cools off a bit I will find the motivation to walk, even if it is just for 10 minutes at a time.


POSTED: Wed, 07/27/2016 - 9:08am


Your courage is a beacon for all of us.Do what you can and get the best from it.oxo


POSTED: Sat, 07/09/2016 - 5:41am

Good morning!

Thank you so much for your reply. I've been trying and trying to post here, and the moderator thing isn't approving my posts...and emails sent to ask why get an autogenerated response. So I may never get to post here again!! I, too, am going back to the book, and also, since I had major dental surgery yesterday and new dentures in place, am looking forward, after a week or so, to being able to eat a much larger variety of foods than I have been able to in the past couple years. As for activity, I love walking. My job is for an accountant, and I work 7:30-5:00, with only 30 minutes for lunch. So, I am not always energetic enough to exercise. However, our apartment complex has a pool, so I've been trying to swim at least 3 times a week. My apartment has inside stairs, so I do an odd combination of indoor walking, stair climbing, and weight lifting (not heavy, just for my arms)...but again, I have to find the energy. I have MS, so my choices for movement have to be made with that in mind...balance issues are the biggest problem.


POSTED: Thu, 07/07/2016 - 7:34am


So, I've been trying to get into my valds58 profile, and nothing works. So...I created a new one, with a somewhat different pic...hoping this works. Maybe my posts will get accepted? I don't really know what else to do. The website keeps telling me that I am not registered, and thus not allowed to post comments. So...this may go off into cyberspace never to be seen again. But I hope it does get here eventually, because I so want to be part of this group again!


POSTED: Wed, 07/06/2016 - 9:07am


Hi, I am new here and doing my best....I have had some good days when I feel chic and French and a few bad days, like today (!) when I don't. I know why I don't feel chic today,...I have a couple of smallish worries on my mind, I have a cold coming on and I had a sausage roll for a snack, mid morning, and a bag of crisps with my lunch! (Oh! The shame!) There's also football on the TV tonight which will probably mean a couple of beers this evening – and right now I have absolutely no inclination to forego the beers. I have lost my chic inspiration today.


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 9:15pm


Welcome! I do believe the Euro Cup is my undoing! The last game is on Sunday, so I should return to my normal behavior...with some support from my French lady friends here. I have not been feeling very chic lately either; but it is good to know that the next meal can be healthy and pleasurable.


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 9:26pm


Did you request to join the FB Group?A message popped up but I cannot find it.Try again please.


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 9:30pm

Found it!

You are in like Flynn.


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 9:20pm

The Stanley Cup

Was my undoing for many,many years.Specially when the Canadiens were winning one after the other.Dress up and watch the games .Put on some perfume. But most of all enjoy every moment.The season will be over and you will be back on track.oxo


POSTED: Wed, 07/13/2016 - 2:01pm

Back to Sanity

Good grief! I am so happy the Euro Cup is over. I overindulged again on Sunday, and I am over it. It's time to recast and get my life back on track. Thank goodness the World Cup isn't coming up soon!


POSTED: Thu, 07/14/2016 - 7:42am

Euro cup

I can't say I'm glad it's over but I suppose it is one more rung on the temptation ladder which has been removed!


POSTED: Thu, 07/14/2016 - 10:48am

Euro Cup

Yes, I needed that rung removed. I'm back to my life now. I need to make a better plan when the World Cup comes around.


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 10:46pm

Good Advice

I will dress up, go to a new church on Sunday, and cheer like a mad woman during the game.


POSTED: Wed, 07/06/2016 - 10:59am

Deep Breath

You will conquer.And forget shame !Not healthy.Mireille says French women make up for indulgences the next day or over a period of days.And that they look at their food intake over a week,instead of suffering (as we do)one meal at a time.Makes much more sense no?I just remembered that now.Will apply it myself.If you want a beer,have it.Enjoy it.Put it in the nicest glass you have,put your feet up,watch the game and sip,away.Reconsider the second beer but if you want it drink it with pleasure.Then let us know how you are doing.

Elizabeth G

POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 11:56pm

No shame!!

Well said, Jean. I like this expression regarding shame and regrets: "Why should I regret the past? I don't live there anymore." Every day is a new start, and it is yours to mold into anything you like!


POSTED: Sat, 07/09/2016 - 4:55pm

Great expression!

Elizabeth, I like that expression very much. No, we don't live in the past. It just takes some practice to pull our thoughts to the present.


POSTED: Thu, 07/07/2016 - 3:23am

Thank you

Thank you for your kind words. Today is another day! I have asked to join the Facebook group, too x


POSTED: Thu, 07/07/2016 - 11:40pm

How did your day go?

Hope it was good.Did you use your own name?I looked for a request but saw nothing.Will you request again. Please.


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 5:10am


Thanks, I've been accepted into the group. Yesterday was a much better day, too!


POSTED: Fri, 07/08/2016 - 6:06pm


On all counts.oxo


POSTED: Tue, 07/05/2016 - 9:01pm

Yes, welcome back!

And I join the ranks of the fallen from time to time. I am pretty much at goal weight, but have periods where I continue to fall back on food as comfort. Then the self-sabotaging struggle to eat mindfully and when hungry, not because I'm having a bad day. I know how easily gaining 5 pounds can multiply. This site is full of lovely and supportive ladies, so please come back as often as you need. Start with the book as Jean said and take it one day at a time. You can do it!


POSTED: Tue, 07/05/2016 - 8:30pm

welcome back~

Glad you found your way back! I would not say there are so few here as I have receive much support myself. WE all fall down, off, slip sideways and so on. I know you can do it as why we are all here! We all have good and bad days. I think I have had a bad 3 weeks! So, I am starting over once more. I don't beat myself up, I just get back on that French horse and ride boldly ride! :o)


POSTED: Tue, 07/05/2016 - 2:43pm

Welcome home!

We are returning to the site many of us after wandering away.Happy you climbed up that cliff.That is the first step.And now forgive yourself.It is a struggle and you are human.We all will be glad to help you.Please keep in touch.I always fall off the cliff,btw.So let's start together.Time to re read the first book.It always helps. Jean


POSTED: Wed, 07/06/2016 - 6:38am

Thank You!!

Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I was so excited to see replies this morning, and that my post had finally been approved! I'm sharing one thing here that only 3 people in my life really know about...and I have ALOT of children and family. Friday morning I am having major surgery...and frankly it is not only scaring me to death, it is embarrassing. I have to get all my teeth taken out and am getting dentures. I feel like my husband will never look at me the same again, but that is just voices in my head. I'm scared to death of pain and dentists, and I'm also very independent, so the healing time afterwards is also really going to be hard for me. Having said all that, I'm going to have a whole week to read, to think, to plan, to decide where I want to go with my body from here. And that is exactly what I am going to do. I'm going to try to see this experience, not as an embarrassment, but as a step toward good self care! I'd appreciate any good thoughts Friday morning, and again, thank you so much for all your kind words.


POSTED: Tue, 05/24/2016 - 10:50am

Good thoughts

Why do we stray?And the books can be there as references and encouragement.Off to,You Tube to hear an interview.Need a little push today.oxo


POSTED: Fri, 05/27/2016 - 10:20am

Just my opinion...

I think I stray when I am really angry! Yelling , swearing and letting people know how I really feel, isn't something I do when I'm mad. So I stuff that emotion, and tamp it down with food. Of course I know how self-destructive that is. And the person I'm punishing is really just me. This age and still letting others push my buttons. I can do better!


POSTED: Mon, 06/06/2016 - 7:19pm


Kit, I really appreciate your thoughts here. Perhaps as women we do that (tamp it down with food) Sometimes we just need to let out our frustration with someone, ya know? :o) Best wishes!


POSTED: Sun, 05/22/2016 - 10:35am

Any FWDGF Facebook Groups?

Does anyone know of any groups on Facebook that are for those following the French Women Don't Get Fat lifestyle? Thank you.


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