My secret: don't over-accessorize. French women do not "buy the mannequin." Instead, they have one or two accessories that define them, and they add new ones slowly and carefully. My treasured accessory is my sunglasses. I have two pairs, one purple, one green. It's what we call BCBG: bon chic, bon genre
French women choose their own indulgences and compensations. They understand that little things count, both additions and subtractions, and that as an adult everyone is the keeper of her own equilibrium.